A closer look
You know that friend who cancels plans an hour before meeting, claiming it’s for your own good? Turns out, they may actually believe they’re sparing you the awkwardness of hanging out with a tired, stressed version of themselves. While it feels inconsiderate to you, to them it’s almost like a kindness: 'better to back out than drag bad vibes along.' Of course, the disappointment is real, but the twist is that last-minute bailers often see themselves as thoughtful rather than flaky. It’s a psychological blind spot that leaves both sides frustrated.
