A closer look
Yes—both people can feel absolutely logical and still be tangled in bias. It happens because the brain is a bit like a treasure hunter that ignores useless rocks and only picks up glitter. In relationships, this glitter is information that matches what we already believe. So if you’re convinced someone cares deeply for you, you’ll remember every warm smile but not the awkward silences. If you believe they’re neglecting you, then every missed text feels like proof. It’s confirmation bias at play: a mental magnifying glass that exaggerates what supports our viewpoint while quietly tossing the rest away. Real clarity comes when we dare to ask: what valuable evidence might I be ignoring?
